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7 tips to seducing a woman online by Kij0
If you're a woman online, odds are men will periodically test their luck and hit on you. Which is all fine and well, I personally enjoy flirting and your occasional ego petting however.... In the past week alone, I have had enough of the same old lame antics to irritate me into writing this article.
I am dead sick of men using the same moronic tactics over and over again. It's almost as if they all subscribe to some man manual for internet dating. 98% of the time you can almost anticipate the next line, because they seem to be reading from a script.
So fella's let me dispel some of your 'man manual' myths. I can not speak for all women, but I assure you the majority would agree with my thinking, when it comes to these seven rules to seducing women.
1. Speak intelligently:
Example - ur so hawt! If you really feel you must tell her this, speak english!
Unless the lady in question is in the 14-16 year old range, and happens to think talking like a thug or retard is soooo kewl, all you are doing is looking like a fool.
Men may get excited over a simple statement like "Wow! You're hot!" but it takes a LOT more than a badly written statement to turn a woman on. If you can't spare more than a few sentences to get me typing hot and heavy, GO AWAY!
2. Don't overuse Generic nicknames:
Example: Constant use of Baby, honey, sexy
A promiscuous woman once told me her golden rule. Use generic terms! If all you ever use is honey or baby, you can easily swap the same material for multiple people. You never get confused and scream the wrong name in bed either. So please treat her as an individual to let her know you aren't just copy/pasting the same old lines to a bunch of different tabs.
Please don't mistake this for saying her name every other word, overkill is seen as a sales pitch.
3. Pay attention:
This one kills me. In fact if I have to repeat the same thing to you odds are I will just stop talking to you and/or block you. Here is an example.
« joe-typical » hi are you busy right now?
« Kij0 » allo, yeah a little, working on my website, I'm on a deadline.
« joe-typical » what are you up to?
« Kij0 » working on my website
« joe-typical» are you doing anything right now?
« Kij0 » yep, uploading some files for the website
« joe-typical » how have you been?
« Kij0 » pretty good, you?
« joe-typical » great. do you want to play a game?
« Kij0 »I can't just now sorry, I have to finish this.
« joe-typical » why?
« Kij0 » I'm on a deadline
« joe-typical » oh, that sucks
« joe-typical » So... do you have a website?
Believe it or not I get many versions of the same thing shown there. If you can't comprehend a simple sentence, or maintain a conversation without forgetting what was said 2-3 lines up (and is probably still visible in your window) then you are not paying attention. If you are not paying attention, you are not getting her attention.
4.Get her name right!
I am quite frequently asked how to pronounce my nick. It sounds like it looks but for a little phonetic support I usually say "it sounds like key-joe". I was speaking to an online DJ once, and he thought he might impress me by dedicating songs to me, and saying my name on air. Well the first time he did he pronounced my name as keye-jew so, I corrected him. I showed him the phonetic spelling and even recorded a quick audio clip saying my name.
He replied that he didn't like my nick and would rather call me Ki(keye). It may seem harsh but I chose my nick in part because I don't like nick names especially nick names for nick names. It's a whole four letters, not so far apart on the keyboard that it's hard to type,it only takes one hand! Vocally it's a whopping two syllables. For several days whenever he was on air, or in chat he would still either call me Keye or pronounce it keye-jew, I corrected him at least 10 times.
He really iced the cake when a couple days later he caught up to me on MSN messenger. He began the conversation with "Ki you hawt moma! I have a special audio clip just for you." I'm not sure exactly what a 'moma' is but hey typo's are just common mistakes, no harm done. I listened to the clip only to hear him saying my name (pronounced Keye-jew) repeatedly with some heavy breathing.
Oh he got me hot alright, but not the way he intended. Heavy breathing is for prank callers, and you certainly don't have much respect for someone if you don't care about something as basic as their name, especially If they've already corrected you more than once. He may as well have called me Mary. If you can't manage to commit her name to memory odds are she isn't going to give you the time of day.
5.Don't assume she is stupid:
Of all the wrong things to do, this one is the worst in my opinion. I've spent close to seven years online, I am very familiar with IRC, messengers, email, graphics and I also have two websites, one that I am building entirely myself. I'm not the world's foremost authority on even my best subject, but it's pretty safe to say I am well versed in computers. Still even after having clearly stated roughly the above men will still try to 'walk me through' clicking a link. If this person had seen tip #3 this would not happen.
6. Don't BE stupid
In any group, be it chat rooms, yahoo groups, forums, or game rooms women talk to each other. We talk about all kinds of feelings and things of a personal nature. You can be fairly certain that if she is having feelings for someone, one of her girlfriends knows it. If you are talking to four different women or speaking poorly of a girl to another, odds are you're not the super stealthy manbeast you think you are. Girls will simply message each other and warn everyone what a 'playa' you are.
7. Slow down!
Last but not least you need to talk to someone for more than 15 minutes before you are positive you are in love with them. Talk about insulting someone's intelligence... "Wow I've never met anyone like you before! I really think I'm going to have very strong feelings for you! Is it just me or does that just jump up and yell STALKER!!! ? I can promise you are not going to connect with someone until you get to know them, and you are not going to know them very well without at least a few weeks to build a rapport.
About the Author
I am a 33 year old mother of two on my journey into creating an ebook for women. My interests include writing, graphics, and website design. If you'd like to learn more about me check out my blog at http://www.kij0corp.net/wordpress
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