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When He Wants to See Other People by Terry Hernon MacDonald
You're going out with a fantastic guy, things seem to be moving along merrily, and out of nowhere he utters those dreaded words: "I think we should see other people." Your first instinct may be to cry, "Why? What have I done? Is there somebody else?"
Don't.
Instead, remain calm. It may be tough, but do your best. Pause. Look the man in the eye and say, "Really? I'm surprised. I've been so happy. I thought you were, too."
At this point, he may offer some sort of excuse, but cut him off. Say, "You don't have to explain. I don't own you, and you don't own me. If you think we should see other people, you're probably right."
Smile. Quietly get out of his car, his house, the bar, or where ever you are. Say goodbye and go. Go home and cry your eyes out, if that's what you want to do. You're entitled. Then make yourself a promise: You will not call him under any circumstances.
Do not drive past his house, show up at his favorite bar, or hit the track he runs in the morning. Avoid crossing his path at all costs. It's important to keep busy even if you don't feel up to it. See friends. Make plans. Go to the movies (even if it means going by yourself).
If there is any hope for your relationship whatsoever, he will call you. He cannot help but notice that you've made no attempt to contact him. If he cares for you, he'll worry. He'll really worry.
And then he'll call.
When he does, do not break your neck diving for the phone. Take your time. He should not get the impression that you've been nibbling your fingernails waiting around for him. If he asks for a date, tell him you'll get back to him the next day. If you already have plans, by no means should you break them.
It will only be a matter of time before Prince Charming loses his desire to see other people.
Now, if you break contact, and he doesn't attempt to reconnect, know this: He was not the man for you. It was never going to work out. If a man really wants to break up with you, there's not a thing you can do to change his mind. You cannot make anyone love you.
But here's the good thing: You saved face. You walked away from him with dignity and elegance. Those are two qualities that will serve you in attracting a special man who'll make you glad you didn't settle for this one.
About the Author
Terry MacDonald is the happily married author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com and post a comment if you'd like information about the cruise for singles she plans for 2007.
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